Stay or Go
Fighting, infidelities, lack of intimacy, loneliness, lack of trust, boredom, monetary concerns and abuse are only some of the reasons that would cause an individual in a relationship to consider leaving their partner. Making the decision to leave and acting upon it is challenging, particularly because some relationships are salvable. The question is when is a relationship worth saving? And when is one better off starting over.
Almost any relationship is fixable if both partners are willing to put the work in. However, sometimes, even if both partners are vested, the cost of staying in the relationship is not worth the effort. Sometimes leaving and starting over is the best option. Identifying if the relationship is truly “over” or if it is a rough patch can be confusing. Many people seek couples counseling to help provide them with a framework from which to answer the question: “Do I stay or go?”
Committing to working on the relationship or committing to leaving the relationship is challenging. Both options have their own pitfalls. Coming to terms with the unhappiness, and making the necessary change(s) is scary. This is particularly true when children are involved, friends are shared, finances are mixed, emotional dependence, shared living space etc. Making the decision that the relationship is worth fighting for, and then doing the emotional work needed to overhaul the relationship is equally scary but for different reasons. One, you have to be open to change. Two, just because you do all the work, does not mean that your partner will, and even if he / she does, your partner may decide he / she wants out.
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